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Sep 1

Advice about cheating boyfriend plus unexpected pregnancy

Subject: Problema tungkol sa pag-ibig.

Ms. D. asked: “Hi kuya..my tanung lang po ako my bf ako his 32 yrs old..my knkasama xa n gurl at ung gurl my knkasam ding poriner..4 yrs n ung gurl at ung poriner tapos 2 yrs naman po cla ng bf.ko then kme naman ng bf k is 7 months plang.aminin kpo npamahal ndin po ako s knya at nw my laman npo ang tiyan ko xa po ang papa..kso umalis n xa papuntang abrod para mag work.pro alam niya n buntis ako..alam k n mahal nya ang gurl at sb nya love nya dn ako at sb nya ingatan k dw tong dnadala ko.pero mula ng umalis xa eh hnd p xa nagpaparmdam skn.kya nw nalilito ako kng maniniwala bko s knya or what kc..alam k n mahal nya ang gurl kso dala k naman ang anak nya magulo po stwasyn nw lalo nsa abrod xa nw..alam k po mahal k xa..sna po mapauhan nyo po ako..”

"Satotoo lang kuya this day nalanan ko n tumawag pala xa sa bestfriend nys tapos wala sakin kya na open ko s ivang manager s wirk jo sb nla wlang phalaga abg bf ko skin kc d nya ako naisip tawagan.at tigilan at ipalaglag nlang ang baby ko kuya naniniwala nko sa kanila masakit pala mag mahal ng dmo alam kung mahal ka.kc tama cla kung mahal nya ako magpaparamdam xa at mangangamusta..kuya mahal ko xa pero dapat koba xang bitiwan at piliing manahimik para sa sarili ko at mgiging baby ko ,mali bki kuya mahal ko xa pero sobra npo akong mukang tanga kuya lalo n now alam kona n natawag xa sa iba at d sakin niisi ko nga din minsan n ipalaglag nalang tong baby ko para mawala n ang prob ko kuya.pero dko kuya eh..dkn alam iidipn ko kuya,nadadala ndn ako s slita ng iba about sa stwasyon ko kuya"

Sagot: (exactly imported from the chat)

Hello Dannalyn, Thank you for your message.

Sa totoo lang, isang malaking bagay ang magkaroon ng isang anak. Isang dakilang pagkakataon iyan upang maranasan ang isang uri ng pag-ibig na mga ina lamang ang makararanas. Sa totoo lang, ang pinaka mahalaga sa lahat ay iyong maligaya ka. Kahit ano pa ang konpigurasyon ng relasyon mo sa ama ng dinadala mo, lagi mong iisipin na ang pinaka-unang standard ay yoong, masaya ka at hindi ka nasasaktan.

Ikaw lang ang nakakaalam ng tama para sa iyo. Pero lagi mong tatandaan, huwag kang aasa sa iba upang mahalin ka. Kailangan ay mahal mo at ginagalang ang sarili mo una higit sa lahat. Bonus lang ang lovers, at mga baby, at kung ano ano pa. Enjoy your life with your baby. At palakihin mo iyang baby mo na puno ng pag-ibig, at puno ng papuri para lumaki siyang masaya at confident na tao.

1. dapat happy ka kahit walang lalake sa buhay mo, isipin mo, nagka baby ka, ang laking biyaya niyan. 2. ang lalake/love-life ay bonus lang iyan. 3. tandaan mo, pinanganak kang mag-isa. Hindi mo kasama iyang iniluwal ang boyfriend mo. 4. kung nasasaktan ka na sa sitwasyon, move on. 5. huwag mong iisipin na tapos na ang lahat… just be open. 6. At, huwag kang gagawa ng bagay na hindi mo kayang tanggapin. 7. Makining ka sa sinasabi ng sarili mo. Yung mga advices ay bonus lang iyan, ikaw at ikaw pa din ang magde-decide, pero may mga helpful na advice. 8. Pero tandaan mo, huwag na huwag kang magpapa-apekto sa mga advice na alam mo sa sarili mo na hindi maganda.

Kaya mo ‘yan…

Jun 5

emotions come and go… memories don’t.

emotions come and go… love doesn’t.

Love is not an emotion, it is our natural selves; a default.

Let True Love therefore be the first decision maker.

Wag kang maniniwala sa negative na sinasabi sayo ng tao. Walang kwenta ang opinyon ng iba kung hindi ito makakatulong sayo. Brush it off.

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Jan 4
Hello dear followers! I love you, I miss you.

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Jan 3

Kuya Robi pwede bang mg pa shout out sa twitter ?

sige.

Jan 3

HELLO KUYA ROBI! Ako po yung nag DM sayo dati na may ipapabasa ako sayo na blog (di mo na siguro natatandaan) Kaso di ko na sinend yung link kasi boring siya tsaka kalandian ko lang naman yun. Anyway..

hahaha!! It’s okay! I hope you are doing great! Okay lang ang kalandian, that’s normal. In right amounts.

Jan 3

KuyaRobi Panu ba suyuin ang mga lalake ? Kasi nag selos po kc xa dati di ko naman kc alam n may gusto sya sken , Eh ako may gusto ako sa kanya kaya nagsasabi ako sakanya ng Crush kong lalake.. tapos tutuksuin nya ako hangang sa ayun nalaman ko nagseselos pala sya deep in side ... di na nya ako pinapansin ngayon =(

Anonymous

Suyuin ang isang guy? Simple lang yan… Wag mong pansinin. Just practice the value of self-sufficiency. You don’t need guys who don’t give attention to you. Love yourself more. Then that guy will run after you. Sure thing!

Jan 3

ano magandang gawin para tuloy tuloy ang convo with guys? hekhek. :)

Anonymous

Hi Anon,

Tips to have great conversations with guys? One thing… Just ask about something that interests the guy you want then let him talk, talk and talk… And then you just listen… When the guy asks you what your ideas are, always answer honestly. But the most important thing is, GIVE A LISTENING EAR, make it to a point that “as if” you are so interested with his life and stories. You’ll surely get good points!

Jan 3

Confidence: Helping Yourself To Achieve Confidence

Are you confident as an eagle or fearful as a chicken? You do not want to be fearful and be a loser during your entire life. NOW is the time to embrace the new you. Courage is a choice, choose it.

Immovable confidence is a sense of being certain everybody desires. The only way to summon confidence even in circumstances that may seemingly be overwhelming for one is through FAITH. Faith in the Creator and Faith in oneself. In order to be confident, one must be able to tap the “power within.”

What is then the “power within?” Power within is the “child in you.” Try to remember when you were still a child, you were carefree, confident and full of Life! You were confident that no matter what happens you were always provided. You were at your peak! But what happened? As you were growing, the society led you to believe in the fallacy of fear, anxiety and doubt which gave birth in turn to yet another fallacy of lack, mistrust and low self-esteem. They started telling you that “in order to be… you must… you must… do these and that…” Lo and behold! You entered a rigid world where fear is the primary driving force and not joy. You lost confidence.

Is it too late to gain back the confidence that was lost? No! It never left you, it is inside you - sleeping. All you have to do is to generate a sort of a cleansing program. Removing the false beliefs and notions about life will certainly certainly awaken that POWER WITHIN! That child in you who is spontaneous, fearless and most notably, greatly IMAGINATIVE!

Just believe. Is it too hard for you to believe that confidence is one of your birthrights along with wealth, health and prosperity? Practice confidence by using it not sporadically but constantly. Start by telling yourself that you deserve “confidence.” Say the words “Confidence, Courage” whenever you feel fearful or anxious. Verbalizing the words related to confidence will help you counteract the negativity. Remember, one positive thought is more powerful than one hundred negative thoughts! 

Your subconscious has a role to play. If you affirm “I am confident” but your conscious mind says “oh that’s stupid, I know you, you are fearful, more fearful than a chicken!!!” It won’t help you. It is better to say the words “Confidence, Courage” rather than lying to yourself. With saying these words, you summon their powers without causing resistance. By doing this constantly, your subconscious mind will start to believe you and make an imprint as part of you.

There’s good news! Your subconscious mind welcomes all thoughts you feed it. You fed it with negativity so your attitude is full of negativity, now FEED it constantly with positivity and it won’t take 30 days of constant “mind feeding” until you can say, “It’s evident, I am changing!” At that point, when you say “I am confident and courageous!” It is already truth. You will notice that the things that scare you do not affect you anymore! You’ll have a smile telling yourself how chicken you were prior to your transformation.

Start now. People don’t like changes even it is for their own good because when there is change, there is a little bit of discomfort, and they would rather suffer the things they long suffered from rather than taking another brief discomfort while changing and embracing new beliefs. Be willing to sacrifice some effort in order for you to CHANGE! Waste no more time, decide now and tell yourself, “In 30 days, I am a completely different person, and I am changing NOW!” Just start now!

Affirmations for you:

Let us start with releasing and letting go of current “unconfident” you…

  • "I let go of the past, I let go of the fearful me. I let go of any resistance to positive changes. I let go of my fear, doubts and anxieties. I embrace the new ME. The ME who is complete and confident."
  • "I consciously release and let go of the past and live only in the present. I embrace each moment and I am thankful of it!"
  • "I release the need to please others, I let go of my pleasing attitude. I do not need any attention from others. Instead, I embrace the confident me who does what is good and beautiful that will bring joy and peace into my life. I know that when I do this, I will be certainly happy and confident"
  • "I let go of the feelings of losing, lack and poverty. I now embrace the thoughts of winning, succeeding and becoming more and more prosperous!"
  • "I let go of the fear to talk with others. I now understand that I am who I am and I am not beneath nor above anyone or anything. I am full expression of ME, the confident and loving me, and I love it!"

More helpful articles and affirmations to come!

Doing affirmations Tip: Do affirmations as much as you can until you get sick of them! When that moment wherein you need no affirmations and the desired behavior is evident, you have achieved your purpose!

Hoping for you great confidence and courage,

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Photo credits: Aj Harbinger, thanks!